INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS

It is vaguely possible for one to hear interpersonal relationships and not think it’s about a sexual relationship or a marriage situation. 

In order for you to really understand what this particular post is all about you need to at least know the dictionary meaning of interpersonal relationship. I legit sound like a lecturer 😅!. 

Okay, so moving on,  interpersonal relationship is a close acquaintance between two or more people sharing common interests and experiences. These relationships are based on inference, love, solidarity, business and social commitments... the list goes on and on.

Interpersonal relationships can go two ways;  it’s either the individuals start off well and maintain a good relationship or they face problems which may or may not end the relationship.
You cannot have a good relationship with someone or a group of people without having positive interpersonal skills.  
These interpersonal skills are skills required of us to interact properly with others, like I said earlier you can’t have strong enough relationships without positive interpersonal skills. It’s just like trying to build a duplex on a foundation meant for a bungalow, the house will collapse without a doubt.

These skills include: listening skills, verbal and non verbal communication, being very nice, finally and most importantly being able to resolve conflicts in healthy ways because troubles in relationships start when people have different opinions or views and fail to reach a mutually acceptable solution.

I have grave experience when it comes to interpersonal relationships. I guess that’s why words are coming so easy. 

Having shared the same room with quite a number of girls in my first year in the university.
I can confidently say maintaining these relationships are hard. 

Let me give y’all the drill. Ever heard of a 12- man room before?, well that was my life then. I had to share a room with so many girls and you know girls being girls are very stressful to handle, different ethnicities, religions, beliefs, characters , trust me guys, it was a hassle, some days I wished I wasn’t in that room. Imagine being in a room where  you can’t take a phone call becauseuse It was ever noisy or having people invading your space but you won’t want to look like a mean witch and keep complaining all the time?, Eventually, I realized that it was more or less helping me get along with people better. To be honest, I actually met some of my best friends in that room.

There’s this thing that people say errr... hold on... okay, it’s more like a slang phrase kinda thing I guess. 

It’s called “keeping your circle small”, honestly I think the literal meaning of that is to have few close friends and then you can go on to have as many interpersonal relationships with other people, these other people I will call “ acquaintances”. 

You know the sad truth?, we often take keep your circle small too seriously. We start keeping the circle relatively too small or not talking to people at all or worst being in our self proclaimed and unnecessary solitary confinement. 

This is bad and is one of the leading causes of depression (a mood disorder caused by continuous feeling of sadness). 

Depression is so prone to teenagers and youth cause it’s suddenly a thing to seem depressed and a trend not to have interpersonal relationships with people like where on earth do y’all come from? 

I know there would be people that would ignore the point I’m making and say you don’t need to have too much friends cause people can be fake blah blah blah... please 🚮
According to statistics about 20% of teens experience depression before adulthood... hold on, I have more tea... depression alone has affected about 300million people worldwide that’s equivalent to the population of Nigeria, South Africa and Spain put together being depressed, sad.
I’m not saying bad interpersonal relationships and self solitary confinement are the only causes of depression but y’all get the drill, right?

You might be asking, how do interpersonal relationships relate with depression, okay honey, imagine you going through something, mind bugging situation, seems like you are losing your mind over it and you have no trusted person to tell or talk to. 

If you are going through anything and all you do is keep quiet about it and eventually you get saddened and then boom depression!

Positive interpersonal relationships will not only help you live comfortably in your society as it offers a sense of belonging but also will definitely take you places and with the development of our immediate society and the world at large, the connection between people, states, tribes, nations is becoming increasingly inevitable.



CHINWEKENE🇳🇬❤️